Keep Them Coming with Kristen Thomas

Friend of the show Lucy Rowett, CSC primarily focuses on helping women and non-binary femmes with embodying pleasure. In this episode, Lucy and I are talking all about the variety of documentaries discussing sex cults and sex scandals, including NXIVM, Jerry Falwell Jr, Teal Swan, One Taste, among others. We covered some feel-good shows that are about sex, too, like How To Build A Sex Room and Goop Lab, as well as Sex, Love, and Goop. 
You can find Lucy at LucyRowett.com or Instagram.

Some of you are fresh out of Dry January and are wondering if you could be dating differently moving forward. Others of you have been sober for years and struggle with being bored on dates. Whether you're a sober dater or simply want fresh and creative date ideas, you'll love this episode of Keep Them Coming.
 
Melissa and Kristen discussed tips for talking to your date about not drinking, where to find people besides a bar, and what Melissa finds sexy in a man. She went on 66 first dates, so she's got some opinions!
 
Melissa Saubers is a Quantum Manifestation Teacher, Healer, Facilitator, and Coach, who has developed a holistic manifestation and healing approach rooted in science, psychology, and spirituality. She has a fascination for the subconscious mind, the quantum field, manifestation, and expanding consciousness and helps clients on their healing, expansion, and manifestation journeys with a variety of healing modalities including breathwork, quantum hypnosis, hypnotherapy, cacao, and energy healing.
 
Melissa hosts many events around the Kansas City area including the weekly love-donation-based Sunset Breathwork event every Tuesday night at 7pm. Melissa can be found online at HealandExpand.com and on Instagram @MelissaSaubers
 
Listen to Kristen's Red Light Special or Singles Appreciation playlist on Spotify.
 
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Ever wonder why men seem to be Mr. Wonderful at first but really start to show their asses after a few months? It's as if they couldn't keep up the act once they thought they had you hooked. You may have found a selfish short-term thinker rather than a generous long-term thinker. 
Chantal Heide - AKA Canada's Dating Coach - is a dating and relationship coach and expert. She's the author of 10 books (plus two workbooks), and it's her book, No More Assholes, that caught Kristen's attention on TikTok. Chantal is so good at dissecting situations and behavior. She mixes the nerdy science-y stuff with romantic actions to help people change their relationship trajectories. 
Topics include: how to stop fighting with your spouse, why no kissing for 90 days may be the bold dating move to change your life, dating after divorce, addressing mismatched libido, and much more.
 
Find Chantal Heide on TikTok  or Instagram, or grab her books on Amazon. 
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Kristen is joined today by friend and fellow Sexologist Mieke Stapelberg. They met through Sex Coach U at a SAR (Sexual Attitude Reassessment) workshop. What better time to make a friend, than when you're being your most vulnerable and exposing yourself to new things?
In addition to talking about her some of her brands - including Mind Sex and Karma Mind - Mieke and Kristen talked about mental health, bias, stigma, self-reflection, and the recent Andrew Tate scandal, of course. They also discussed ethical porn and supporting sex workers. So there's a little bit of something in here for everyone!
Find Mieke on Instagram @karmamind_
 

Back on Keep Them Coming for another episode - it's my friend, colleague, and co-host Kristine D'Angelo. She's a Portland based Certified Sex Coach and we are hosting a couples intimacy retreat in Puerto Vallarta, MX in a few months. We discussed who our retreat is for and some of the topics we will cover. If you and your spouse or partner really love each other, buuut - come to the retreat and we will help you over come that "but". Also included - responsive desire, being an interesting partner, extreme unity vs extreme autonomy, empty nesters and divorce, and moving beyond talking about it to fixing it!Visit rejuvenateintimacy.com for more information or to complete the interest form. You can get more of Kristine by going to doyoursexlifeafavor.com

Mariah Grant is the Director of Research and Advocacy for the Sex Worker Project at the Urban Justice Center. The midterms are coming, and if the blue wave succeeds, the conversations around decriminalizing sex work could result in action. In the meantime, we discussed ways that everyday people can reduce harm for sex workers. We also covered topics like the Safe Sex Worker Study Act, how to speak to legislators to drive change at the state level, and how cops aren't the answer in solving the current issues. Also, pay attention to where you spend your dollar. Lots of big corporations and banks discriminate against SWs. Find your way over to the Urban Justice Center's website and give them a donation!Visit rejuvenateintimacy.com for more information about my couples intimacy retreat in Puerto Vallarta, MX April of 2023.

CSC Kaci Mial joined KTC to discuss all things sex and pregnancy! We talked about the unique challenges that trying to conceive (TTC) couples face. She shared ways to relieve the pressure, to make sex less mechanical, and she provided some great resources for listeners. If you've ever been scared to have sex while pregnant, you need this episode! New moms, dad, and parents alike need support to adjust to their new role as parent and partner. Kaci also talk about what she thought, as a new Mom, was sexiest about her husband after she had their first child. Website : sexcoachkaci.comEmail : sexcoachkaci@gmail.comInstagram : @SexCoachKaci ResourcesWhy Did No One Tell Me This? The Doula’s Honest Guide For Expectant Parents, Natalia Hailes and Ash Spivak (Pgs.185-186)And Baby Makes Three: The Six Step Plan for Preserving Marital Intimacy and Rekindling Romance After Baby Arrives, John Gottman PhD and Julie Scwartz PhdCounseling Couples Before, During, and After Pregnancy, Stephanie Buehler PhdPlanned Parenthood Reproductive Justice Timelinehttps://www.youtube.com/watch?v=AkvGmGNKvSU&ab_channel=PPGNYAction

AJ Cheyfitz is both a sex therapist, as well as a kink and BDSM educator in the DC area. AJ taught me all about The Violet Wand, including great information about care, such as cleaning, safety protocols, and more. If you have been a BDSM or kink practitioner for a while, and you've been playing with different things that give you those stringy or those thuddy sensations, and you're looking for something a little bit more interesting, electricity play could be something for you to try.

My new friend, Anna Koehler, joined me. She and I are co-hosting a workshop coming up called Ask Me Out: How to approach them for a date. If you feel like the pandemic has made you start holding back, something has made you feel like you're having a harder time putting yourself out there, or maybe you became single for the first time in a long time in the last couple of years. You're not alone. And we have solutions for you in this workshop!Ana also discussed her one woman show called Cold Showers. We threw in some of our ideas about how to get the second date. I also gave my opinion on who should pay for the check on the date.Found out that I got nominated for The Pitch's Best Of For 2022. I got nominated for two awards - Best TikTok and Best Local Personality. I'd appreciate your vote.

Dr. Amanda Olson is a Pelvic Floor Therapist and she treats a host issue. Her company Intimate Rose makes FDA approved medical devices to treat pelvic floor disorders. And Dr. Olson helped explain what the process is like when you first go and what the treatment journey can look like.On top of discussing the benefits of some of her devices, which I do have one on my office shelf, we also discussed some of the shifts that we have seen that have enabled growth in her industry. Gen Z is not putting up with not having answers and solutions to their pain, that's for sure! Mentioned in the episode intro: Workshop September 18th, 2022 Ask Me Out: How to approach them for a date