Keep Them Coming with Kristen Thomas

Ep. 68 - Celebrating self-pleasure during National Masturbation Month

It's my masturbation month episode for 2020. May is National Masturbation Month and some people have asked me, "how did that get started?" There's certainly a month for everything these days, so I researched and shared it's origins. I found this sex toy company called TENGA who does research into masturbation and I divulged some sexy deets from their 2019 Self-Pleasure Report. I also discussed sex toys to make masturbation more fun, especially for men, lube, and some thoughts on what parents can do to help their kids understand self-pleasure.
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Ep. 67 - Releasing through rope play with Bird Girl

I was incredibly honored to have a new friend that I made on the internet on my show today. Her Instagram handle is @KCBirdGirl, but just for short, we'll call her Bird Girl. Bird Girl participates in rope play. She shared some of her experiences at a recent roleplay conference happened before the shutdown, of course. And she talked about having to really show up and be present and just be her true self. She had to work through some imposter syndrome. She shared how she finds that rope can be very meditative and actually mentioned using mindfulness techniques during her sessions, during her , what we call, scenes. We also tried to debunk some myths, especially when it comes to sexuality and BDSM. I think you will be just as fascinated by this conversation as I was because I don't really participate in road place. This was all new to me. A couple of quick things I want to mention.
First off, I have a new service offering. I am now going to be offering not just hour long sessions, but also 30 minute sessions. So, if because of the shutdown, you're looking for some support, some help with your sex life, send me a message. Kristen@openthedoorscoaching.com. It's also National Masturbation Month! I'm sure my next episode is going to be about masturbation, but if you can't wait until then, you can actually go back to my second episode, which was almost a year ago. That's right! I have been doing Keep Them Coming with Open the Doors Coaching for a year. If you'd like more of my content besides the podcast, follow me on social media. I invite you to please join my email newsletter, especially my not safe for work newsletter, The Dirty Bird. Please remember to subscribe, rate, share this show.
Mentioned in the episode: NARIX or North American Rope Innovation Exchange - A rope conference
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Ep. 66 - Stay home and masturbate

We are still under a stay at home order, so the CDC has politely asked us to stay home and masturbate. Not just the CDC, several state agencies have put out requests for people to be more cautious with their sexual activity. Right now, a lot of people are not staying at home currently with a partner, so that has had some effects on people's buying habits. And of course, specifically what I'm talking about is sex, toys. Vibrators, dildos, sex toys, all the things are flying off the shelves.
I don't really know anybody at any of the big toy manufacturers, but I do know a Pure Romance consultant, so I had my friend and neighbor, Kelly Jackson on again. This is her second appearance on Keep Them Coming and we talked about what she has seen during this lockdown. We also talked about mutual masturbation, some of the health benefits of masturbation, as well as how to introduce toys into the bedroom, especially if your partner's not quite so keen on having a toy during intimate times. And we had a moment in our fields where we talked about what we hope to see as far as some cultural shifts after COVID.
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Ep. 65 - The Walk Must Go On: How the 32nd Annual AIDS Walk KC manages change during social distancing with Eric Thomas

Eric Thomas is the Board President of the AIDS Service Foundation. He came on the show to tell me more about the Foundation as well as AIDS Walk Kansas City. With COVID-19 and Kansas City's stay at home order, we're certainly not going to get thousands of people together for an in-person walk. We talked about the pivots that they're making to still be able to service their organizations that help people in the region, not only with their diagnosis, but with living full healthy lives with HIV and AIDS. We also talked about how there is such a different understanding between generations of HIV and AIDS and some of the stigma as well as the U = U campaign and what that means for our new understanding of living a life with HIV. I couldn't help with what's going on in the world discuss some of the things that I wish could have happened in the early days of the HIV epidemic. It's kind of strange talking about one pandemic when you're in the middle of another one.
I hope what you'll get from this episode is that there is a lot of hope. There's been a lot of research over the last few years, and there are people in the community who are out there dedicated to making sure that there is prevention, there's treatment, and that there's resources for everyone in our community. I hope you not only learn something about this organization, but you learn something about HIV and AIDS today. There's still a lot of stigma. There's still a lot of misinformation, miseducation, and just a lack of education , and of course, educating people about STIs and human sexuality is what I am here on the planet to do, so I hope you enjoy our conversation.
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Ep. 64 - Vegan sexuality, cannabis, and thriving in high stress times with Shelley Fritz

You might notice that today's episode is a little longer than normal, and that's for good reason. I did the interview with Shelley Fritz originally in February, and life's changed a little bit. So what I have at the end of today's episode is a followup interview. I've never done this before, but I thought it was worth it because Shelly had discussed some things that she had coming up with some workshops, and obviously life's changed. Shelly is a holistic healer. She's a coach. She focuses on helping people find clarity. She's also cannabis coach. She's writing a book. We talked about, of course, two of my favorite topics, which is sex and cannabis . We discussed how it can help post-menopausal women, uh, people who have painful intercourse, painful periods. Cannabis can absolutely add to your sexual experiences and we talked about some of the ways to do so. And we got into talking about the difference between using cannabis as a drug to get high versus a medicine. Shelly is also a vegan, so we discussed ways that a plant based lifestyle can enhance your sex life. This conversation was phenomenal. So I think that you're going to want to listen to the entire thing, break it up into a couple sessions if you need to. 
Let me know what you think. I'd love to hear back from you, Kristen@openthedoorscoaching.com is my email or send me a direct message on any of my social media channels. Please rate, like, and subscribe this podcast and share it with anyone that you think might benefit from hearing it. I always love and appreciate hearing from my listeners, especially right now when we're all practicing social distancing... Call it physical distancing. We can still keep socializing. We just got to find different ways to do it. So if you want to reach out, please do so. 
For anyone that is interested in coaching sessions with me, I am now offering 30 minute and 60 minute virtual sessions. I can coach you from anywhere thanks to technology. I work with couples and singles. Again, shoot me an email if you would like some more info.
Mentioned in the episode:
Shelley Fritz can be reached at ShelleyFritzHealing.com or shelleyfritzhealing@gmail.com
Russel Brand and Brené Brown interview on YouTube
Mic the Vegan and Female Erectile Dysfunction
The Game Changers – Film about plant based eating and athletes
Weed The People – Available on Netflix
T. Colin Campbell Center for Nutrition Studies
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Ep. 63 - Courting is back : Tips for phone and video chat dates

I want to talk about how courting is back! Basically, unless you are married or living with your significant other, everybody is in long distance relationship mode. So this episode is for you, whether you are single and you are on the dating scene, or you are in a relationship but you're currently separated, this episode is to help you all out.
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Ep. 62 - Cancer and the Kinky Girl

This episode is special to me. I interviewed one of my oldest and dearest friends and we just went completely off the rails talking about whatever just is kind of came to mind. You're really gonna feel like a fly on the wall between two best friends just go into town and telling sex stories - some that are hilarious, some that are cringe-worthy, some that were just really good learning lessons. But the main topic I had Kelly come on to talk about today was her experiences with cancer. She's had a double mastectomy and a hysterectomy, and I really wanted someone's perspective on what it's like to keep your sexuality going after you've had surgery and change like this in life.We talked about femininity, kink and BDSM, and what dating was like when she was going through treatment. And it didn't necessarily slow her down, but she definitely had to alter her thinking and gain some perspectives that she could move forward as a sexual being after all of this.
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Ep. 61 - Getting busy during a state of emergency

I live in Kansas City, Missouri, and on Thursday 3-12-2020 our Mayor declared a state of emergency. Any events of a thousand people or more are banned, canceled, whatever. Who knows how far this is going to go, but we like to party here in Kansas City (it's also known as the Paris of the Plains), so a friend of mine is going to host a party at his office today. And of course he posted in the event on socials, "Will Kristen be talking better sex stuff in small groups? Come find out." Someone asked, "Will she be teaching us how to safely have intercourse with our sick partners? I'm asking for myself in hopes that I meet a man with a cough." I like a girl with a good sense of humor. Thank you for that question and I'm happy to answer in this episode.
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Ep. 60 - Pegging, Part 2: a female perspective

Pegging, Part 2: a female perspective. This episode was a hell of a lot of fun to record. I learned so much. My guest, HardToHandle is going by a pseudonym because while we are talking about pegging, she's also going to talk about her cam work, as she does live cam work online. That was a really fun conversation talking about some of her experiences with camming and how she is building that into a side hustle. We told some funny dating stories, some good, bad and ugly ones, including some stories about oral sex gone wrong and a story about champagne and anal play. So, I know you're going to enjoy this episode.
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Ep. 59 - Pegging, Part 1: A male perspective

My guest, Tim, came on this show to discuss a lot of aspects of his sex life, his marriage, and his relationships outside of that. We talked about pegging, rimming, and basically all things anal play, non-monogamy, amateur porn, BDSM, and so much more. I've said on my show before that I do not believe that monogamy is the only way to structure a relationship. So, if you are a monogamous person, I would simply encourage you to approach this episode with an open mind. I am not here to judge how anyone lives their lives. I am simply here as a facilitator for honest conversations about what we actually do in the world when it comes to sexual expression and gratification. Let me know what you think about this conversation with Tim. You can email me Kristen@openthedoorscoaching.com or DM me on any of my social media channels, but I think you'll enjoy this conversation as it really is an honest and unique look at what it's like to find fulfillment for something that you really enjoy when your partner simply isn't into it.
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