Keep Them Coming with Kristen Thomas

Ep. 74 - The Paris of the Plains is kinky AF

Today's episode is all about Kink in Kansas City aka The Paris of the Plains. Yes, for a long time, KC has been known for it's wild side, and Vicky joined me today to help me learn more about what's available for people. Whether you're just getting started moving from fantasy into play, you're curious about kink but don't know what's what, or maybe you're already into it and you don't know where to go for a dungeon or community. She's got the answers for you. So just check the show notes below for all the groups she mentioned in this episode.
Consent Kansas City – Created to provide education and fun to the community. Hosts KC’s largest munch- Why Not Wednesday, monthly parties on 3rd Saturdays of the month, semi-annual Fetish Pop-Up Shop, Community Kinky Campout and more! Fetlife: consent_kc (page) / Consent Kansas City (group) https://fetlife.com/groups/71405
AHS Kansas City – Alternative Human Society D/s lifestyle resource & support group since the early 90s. Monthly meetups 3rd Fridays, monthly parties on 1st Saturdays, annual community Kinky Campout. Fetlife: AHS Kansas City
BKKC – Black Kink Kansas City – Love and encouragement of people of color. Increasing visibility and inclusivity in KC. Monthly meetings 4th Friday of the month. Fetlife: bkkc816913
The Hellfire Club KC – Provide an environment in which people can openly discuss and practice protocols. All welcome to attend. Monthly meetings 2nd Friday of the month. Fetlife: The Hellfire Club – Kansas City
Petplay Corral – 1st Friday of the month. All welcome to participate or observe. Fetlife: Message IX Kansas City & they will connect you with the current team
CG/l Kansas City – Littles group for all Bigs, littles, ABDL, etc. All welcome to participate! Monthly parties 3rd Friday of the month. Fetlife: CG/lkansascity
Poly Discussion Group – anyone curious/practicing ethical non-monogamy. Usual meetings 3rd Sundays Fetlife: Message FeistyRedGoddess and/or ZKiltedFlogger
MAsT – Masters And slaves Together – Interested and/or practicing Power Exchange. All are welcome. Monthly meetings last Wednesday of the month. Fetlife: MAsT: Kansas City
KC Pioneers – Levi-Leather club in Kansas City,MO. They promote the leather lifestyle through social events and community service. Regular meetings, education nights, and parties.Facebook: KC Pioneers. Website: www.kcpioneers.club Fetlife: KC Pioneers
RSG of KC - Rope group that holds occasional events and an annual Rope Camp. Fetlife: Rope Study Group of Kansas City
Scouts of Submission - Designed to provide an outlet for s-types to develop life skills & lifestyle skills and serve the community. For anyone identifying as an s-type. No gender restrictions. Can be a badge seeking scout or just a attendee of classes/events. Semi-regular meetings
Fetlife: SOS_KC
Subspace_KC – Forum for support and education of all s-types and bottoms. A mission to create a safe space for all s-types regardless of their label to find support and community engagement. Regular meet-ups. Also have an active chat group on Dischord: message sassmissive for link.
Fetlife: subspacekc
The Meat Locker - It is a group for gay/bi men to socialize, learn, and be around others like them in the kink community. Message Consent Kansas City to receive a link to the dischord chat.
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Ep. 73 - Let’s FINALLY talk about sex

It is pretty common for couples to not talk about sex. But why? Why is it so hard for some people?! Kristen dives into a few of the reasons why, and how to get past it, especially if you've been together a while and never had The Talk.
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Ep. 72 - Tap that feminine energy

Tapping into feminine energy isn't just for female identifying folks, it's for everyone. This episode with Dave Witcher is about feminine energy and its ties to sexual energy, creativity, and much more. He left the tech sector 5 years ago, and we talked about his journey to living the life, from a dark night of the soul to finding peace. Dave and Kristen's talk about how to use this energy to empower your entire life.
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Ep. 71 - Expanding your position repertoire

What do you do when you're stuck doing the same positions in the bedroom over and over again? How do you talk about it with your partner? In this episode, Kristen explores why it's important to change it up, how to get past the awkwardness of discussing sex, and how to keep it interesting without feeling like you're constantly coming up with new ideas.
Mentioned in the episode:
SFW email newsletter for the curious. You can put any email address here you like.
The Dirty Bird NSFW email newsletter. This should be your personal email because it will definitely have adult content.
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Ep. 70 - How does race affect your dating life?

Keep Them Coming is back after a brief summer break! Monique Waters LMT joins me to have a conversation about dating and race. In this very frank talk, we share experiences, fears, red flags, and so much more. We discussed the fetishization of black and brown bodies, what it means when you exclude races from your dating profile, and how to have talks about race with your partner, especially when you have different backgrounds.
I believe that talking about race - the nuances of our experiences, the day to day realities, the what ifs, the lessons left to be had - is very important, now more than ever. I was so glad to have Monique on the show to talk about what her life is like as a black woman who is single in the Midwest. Find her at MassageAmaniandSpa.com or on Facebook.
Also in today's show, I gave a review for a product at the end! You can find the Lisenwood Wedge Pillow set from several online retailers.
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Ep. 69 - The Joy of 69ing

From the history of the the phrase to how to better enjoy the position, no matter what's between your legs, Kristen has information and advice to help you get the most out of 69ing. It's June 9th, what better day to talk about one of her favorite sex positions?
Mentioned in the episode:
Anne-Josèphe Théroigne - Female French Revolutionary who had an interesting life and coined the term soixant-neuf.
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Ep. 68 - Celebrating self-pleasure during National Masturbation Month

It's my masturbation month episode for 2020. May is National Masturbation Month and some people have asked me, "how did that get started?" There's certainly a month for everything these days, so I researched and shared it's origins. I found this sex toy company called TENGA who does research into masturbation and I divulged some sexy deets from their 2019 Self-Pleasure Report. I also discussed sex toys to make masturbation more fun, especially for men, lube, and some thoughts on what parents can do to help their kids understand self-pleasure.
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Ep. 67 - Releasing through rope play with Bird Girl

I was incredibly honored to have a new friend that I made on the internet on my show today. Her Instagram handle is @KCBirdGirl, but just for short, we'll call her Bird Girl. Bird Girl participates in rope play. She shared some of her experiences at a recent roleplay conference happened before the shutdown, of course. And she talked about having to really show up and be present and just be her true self. She had to work through some imposter syndrome. She shared how she finds that rope can be very meditative and actually mentioned using mindfulness techniques during her sessions, during her , what we call, scenes. We also tried to debunk some myths, especially when it comes to sexuality and BDSM. I think you will be just as fascinated by this conversation as I was because I don't really participate in road place. This was all new to me. A couple of quick things I want to mention.
First off, I have a new service offering. I am now going to be offering not just hour long sessions, but also 30 minute sessions. So, if because of the shutdown, you're looking for some support, some help with your sex life, send me a message. Kristen@openthedoorscoaching.com. It's also National Masturbation Month! I'm sure my next episode is going to be about masturbation, but if you can't wait until then, you can actually go back to my second episode, which was almost a year ago. That's right! I have been doing Keep Them Coming with Open the Doors Coaching for a year. If you'd like more of my content besides the podcast, follow me on social media. I invite you to please join my email newsletter, especially my not safe for work newsletter, The Dirty Bird. Please remember to subscribe, rate, share this show.
Mentioned in the episode: NARIX or North American Rope Innovation Exchange - A rope conference
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Ep. 66 - Stay home and masturbate

We are still under a stay at home order, so the CDC has politely asked us to stay home and masturbate. Not just the CDC, several state agencies have put out requests for people to be more cautious with their sexual activity. Right now, a lot of people are not staying at home currently with a partner, so that has had some effects on people's buying habits. And of course, specifically what I'm talking about is sex, toys. Vibrators, dildos, sex toys, all the things are flying off the shelves.
I don't really know anybody at any of the big toy manufacturers, but I do know a Pure Romance consultant, so I had my friend and neighbor, Kelly Jackson on again. This is her second appearance on Keep Them Coming and we talked about what she has seen during this lockdown. We also talked about mutual masturbation, some of the health benefits of masturbation, as well as how to introduce toys into the bedroom, especially if your partner's not quite so keen on having a toy during intimate times. And we had a moment in our fields where we talked about what we hope to see as far as some cultural shifts after COVID.
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Ep. 65 - The Walk Must Go On: How the 32nd Annual AIDS Walk KC manages change during social distancing with Eric Thomas

Eric Thomas is the Board President of the AIDS Service Foundation. He came on the show to tell me more about the Foundation as well as AIDS Walk Kansas City. With COVID-19 and Kansas City's stay at home order, we're certainly not going to get thousands of people together for an in-person walk. We talked about the pivots that they're making to still be able to service their organizations that help people in the region, not only with their diagnosis, but with living full healthy lives with HIV and AIDS. We also talked about how there is such a different understanding between generations of HIV and AIDS and some of the stigma as well as the U = U campaign and what that means for our new understanding of living a life with HIV. I couldn't help with what's going on in the world discuss some of the things that I wish could have happened in the early days of the HIV epidemic. It's kind of strange talking about one pandemic when you're in the middle of another one.
I hope what you'll get from this episode is that there is a lot of hope. There's been a lot of research over the last few years, and there are people in the community who are out there dedicated to making sure that there is prevention, there's treatment, and that there's resources for everyone in our community. I hope you not only learn something about this organization, but you learn something about HIV and AIDS today. There's still a lot of stigma. There's still a lot of misinformation, miseducation, and just a lack of education , and of course, educating people about STIs and human sexuality is what I am here on the planet to do, so I hope you enjoy our conversation.
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